How to Discuss Divorce with Your Children: An Oregon Family Law Perspective
Navigating the complexities of divorce is challenging for any family, but one of the most sensitive aspects involves discussing these changes with your children. As experienced Oregon family law attorneys, we often encounter parents who are uncertain about how and when to initiate this difficult conversation. Here, we provide guidance based on professional insights and legal considerations.
Timing Is Everything
One key aspect is timing. According to experts like Dr. Lisa Gabardi, a licensed psychologist specializing in family dynamics during divorce, the timing of this discussion should be carefully considered based on your child's age. A practical guideline suggests informing your child well ahead of any significant change—specifically, twice their age in days before an event such as a parent moving out. For instance, if you have a ten-year-old child, consider having this conversation approximately 20 days prior.
Creating a Supportive Environment
When talking to your children about divorce, it's crucial that both parents present a united front. Having this conversation together in a neutral area of the home reinforces the idea that you will continue working together as co-parents for their benefit. This approach not only provides emotional security but also sets the foundation for successful co-parenting post-divorce.
What Children Need from This Conversation
Children need reassurance during such transitions. They require clarity about what changes they might expect and affirmation that both parents will remain actively involved in their lives despite living arrangements changing. It's important to tailor these discussions according to each child's developmental stage and individual temperament.
Professional Support and Resources
For more comprehensive strategies on co-parenting after divorce or separation, consulting with professionals can be invaluable. At Pacific Family Law Firm, we offer consultations tailored to address specific concerns you may have regarding divorce or legal marital separation . If you're considering mediation or need advice on creating effective parenting plans post-divorce, our team is here to help guide you through every step of the process. For additional support outside legal counsel, Dr. Gabardi offers resources through her private practice in Lake Oswego where she provides psychotherapy and collaborative divorce coaching among other services. To schedule an appointment with one of our dedicated attorneys at Pacific Family Law Firm or learn more about navigating these conversations effectively within your unique family dynamic contextually grounded by Oregon law principles—contact us today at 503-445-1575.
